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Self Care

What now? What about the people? As for the abusers and boundary breakers? They can choose to stop the behavior. They absolutely can and then they can come back. They need to apologize for what they did, make big observable changes to their behavior. You […]

The Missing Stair

tw: abuse, apathy, gas lighting   Missing stairs and leaders You all know someone who is a ‘missing stair’. It’s the person who gets handsy after a few drinks or the one who gets mean and abusive but doesn’t mean it. It’s the one that […]

Definition of a thing

tw: discussion of sexual consent, gaslighting, rape culture Gaslighting gets tossed around a lot and you probably know what it is or have inferred it. Here is how I define it – you doubt your own lived experience to the point where you question reality […]

When it happens to you

tw:sexual assault, rape culture Again, warning: Practice self care. This happened to me. Not someone I know. Not a friend of a friend. I am not, nor will I name names because that is not the point of this. I was, as per my usual, […]

A Tiny Gem

The Gods always surprise you when you’re not looking; I sometimes liken this to being struck with a cattle prod when you least expect it. With Queen Maeve, that seems to perpetually be the case. I remember I was sitting down, crocheting — and I […]

Dubious consent and gaslighting

tw:assault, dubious consent, gaslighting I’m putting the warnings right up top. Practice self-care. Next, this is not a story that happened to a friend of a friend. This happened to people I know. I was there. It was involved. I am not, nor will I […]

On Falling in Love

For a long time, whenever I wanted to talk about the experience of conversion when I found Kemeticism, I talked about falling in love. It wasn’t just “Oh, this religious concept works for me,” it was a passionate thing, an overwhelming thing, that sense where […]

Untangling the Labyrinth of Cult Behaviors: One Scenario Analyzed

Last week, Cara Schulz posted WicCom Priest Under Fire for Ethical and Sexual Misconduct on Pagan news blog the Wild Hunt. The story, in an unusual twist for such matters in the Pagan community, has people from both sides of the contention speaking about the […]

Chronic Pain and Devotion

How can we honor our gods and our spirituality when we can barely get out of bed? When chronic pain and illness affect your religion. Today’s a little worse than normal. On top of the usual pains that comprise my existence, I woke up with […]

All Paths Do Not Lead To The Same Destination

Two guys are drinking in a bar. One turns to the other and says, “Hey, are you going to Saint Mary’s for Mass this Easter?” The second guy replies, “No, I’m an Atheist.” Says the first guy, “Well, I never heard of that one. But […]