When it happens to you

tw:sexual assault, rape culture Again, warning: Practice self care. This happened to me. Not someone I know. Not a friend of a friend. I am not, nor will I name names because that is not the point of this. I was, as per my usual, working a con. I was on duty and is often times the norm in that culture, when a hug is offered you tend to accept. Standing in the hallway near a function room a male-identified person (X) that I knew well enough on sight to nod to (it was a small-ish con of a couple […]

Dubious consent and gaslighting

tw:assault, dubious consent, gaslighting I’m putting the warnings right up top. Practice self-care. Next, this is not a story that happened to a friend of a friend. This happened to people I know. I was there. It was involved. I am not, nor will I name names because that is not the point of this. Several years ago I was working an event and two of my staff got into a conflict. They were both on duty, it was in the event space and one of them had a duty radio on them. The male identified person(A) made a pass […]