pagan culture

HOW abuse hurts people – a few words before Pantheacon

Horrifying behaviors that should be indisputable that I still routinely see excused in the Pagan community and beyond: Any sexuality with a child AT ALL. If they’re not old enough to vote and you could not be reasonably considered a peer, leave them the hell alone. Any “circumvention” of fully conscious consent for sexual energy, energy access, or physical/metaphysical touch. This includes drugging, NLP on a vulnerable person without warning, nonconsensual psychic vampirism, and outright manipulation and whining until you get what you want. ALL OF THAT IS ABUSE, I DON’T CARE IF ROBERT COCHRANE DID IT. HE WAS WRONG.. […]

That’s Gross Don’t Do That

Pantheacon, 2015 Standing in line for the Green Fairy Party. Someone peers at my badge, scans my name. Turns to friend and says “Oh, that’s nobody famous. Let’s go see if we can find  —–.” Pantheacon 2017 At a suite event. Hostess is openly charmed by my boyfriend. I thank her for her hospitality, she half glares and mumbles something. She engages my boyfriend again and he says we have to leave for the Llewellyn author’s party. “Oh, are you an author?” she asks him. “No, my girlfriend is!” She asks what I wrote and her demeanor changes from borderline hostile […]