For magically inclined people there are other outlets for these feelings. The energy that you raise within yourself can be directed and pointed at things. Breaking with tradition a lot of modern thought I’m going to suggest that the energy raised by negative emotions can be put to use in things that aren’t specifically harmful.
Heathenry is a hostile climate for many and I’m dubious about that ever changing; it’s good to create new spaces and models within which to grow new structures. If Heathenry becomes more accepting of the marginalized and the mystic then we won’t have lost anything from doing so, and if it doesn’t then we will have done the work already.